23 things you should never say to a single parent!

According to the Huffington Post here are 23 things you should never say to a single parent:

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1. “‘OMG I am totally a single mum this week! My hubby is out of town for 5 days. I THINK I MIGHT GO INSANE!’

– Please. NEVER SAY THIS to a single parent!!

2.  At least you get time to yourself now.

3. “‘Well, there’s thousands of single parents out there, I’m sure you can do it all just like they do.’

Are you kidding me? Please volunteer to babysit some evening and give us very poor, struggling parents a break!”

4. “‘Poor kids, they are scarred for life.’

No, actually my kids are ‘A’ students and are very happy with their lives. They actually feel sorry for their friends who have to go home to a bunch of fighting.”

5. “When are you getting married again?”

6.  “‘Why are you so tired?’

Duh!!!!!”

7.  “‘You need to find yourself a husband; girls raised without a father end up sexually promiscuous and boys end up being criminals.’

I’ve actually had a number of people say this to me.”

8.  “You sure that’s best for the kids?”

9.  “‘It’s no different than having a spouse. I see no difference at all.’

Said to me by my boss…and I have 100% full custody

10. “‘ It must be so nice to have time away from the kids!’

Well, yeah, but it’s also really hard to know you’re missing half of their lives.”

11. “It’s the most rewarding thing ever!”

12. “You need to prioritize.”

13.  “‘My husband works so much, I’m basically a single mother too.’

…..no one will ever understand unless they live it.”

14. “‘I do everything you do…. You get the benefit of not having to live with a man!’

Really? Hope you never have to experience the reality.”

15. “‘You need a man in your life.’

HA! That’s where all the trouble started in the first place. I had many people tell me that, boy were they wrong. I should have stayed single, would have been better off.”

16. “‘ It’s easy. It doesn’t sound too hard!’

Go have yourself a teenager and then come back and tell me how ‘easy’ it is!”

17.  “You are lucky you do not have a spouse to fight with”

18. “‘You have it easy, you can use your kid as an excuse.’

That was said regarding NEEDING to leave early #Juggling #TakesaVillage #ItsNotEasy”

19. “Just how do you do it?”

20.  “[With a sad, patronizing face] ‘How are you coping with life?’

21. “Every child needs both their parents there.”

22. “I don’t appreciate when strangers ask me if the father is involved with the child. A) It’s none of your business and B) He isn’t which makes it upsetting to have to reply!”

23. “‘You should spend more time with the kids and less time working.’

Bills don’t pay themselves and food doesn’t appear magically.”

We agree with the Huffington Post’s quotes! So the next time you consider offering a single parent unsolicited advice, you may want to think twice.  Though the constructive criticism generally comes from a well-meaning place, as many single dads and moms will tell you, the tone struck is all too often judgmental rather than supportive.

 

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