READ SOME OF OUR SUCCESS STORIES!

Still looking for your perfect match? Here are just a few of our many success stories! These just go to show that it can work for you too!

 

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After a few messages, Frank invited me to a restaurant and we got on really well. We decided to go on a second date and he said he’d take me to the seaside. He took my hand and we walked along the beach together. We remained hand in hand for the rest of the day! Since then, we’ve been canoeing on the River Severn, rowing in Stratford and we’re planning on punting on the River Cam at Cambridge soon. We’re really enjoying each others company, it’s been wonderful!

Clare and Frank

 

 

 

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Peter and I got talking on the site and discovered that he lives only 100 yards away from me! We got on well online so arranged to meet on the green at the back of our road. We seemed to click straight away. After a chat, we decided to go to the coast for a meal that evening. It turned out that we had a lot in common. We have had some really good laughs together and we are now looking forward to our future together.

Judith and Peter

 

 

 

We hope you enjoyed reading this months successful love stories. We hope this encouraged you to go out there and find your love!

Love the singlemums.net Team.

 

23 things you should never say to a single parent!

According to the Huffington Post here are 23 things you should never say to a single parent:

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1. “‘OMG I am totally a single mum this week! My hubby is out of town for 5 days. I THINK I MIGHT GO INSANE!’

– Please. NEVER SAY THIS to a single parent!!

2.  At least you get time to yourself now.

3. “‘Well, there’s thousands of single parents out there, I’m sure you can do it all just like they do.’

Are you kidding me? Please volunteer to babysit some evening and give us very poor, struggling parents a break!”

4. “‘Poor kids, they are scarred for life.’

No, actually my kids are ‘A’ students and are very happy with their lives. They actually feel sorry for their friends who have to go home to a bunch of fighting.”

5. “When are you getting married again?”

6.  “‘Why are you so tired?’

Duh!!!!!”

7.  “‘You need to find yourself a husband; girls raised without a father end up sexually promiscuous and boys end up being criminals.’

I’ve actually had a number of people say this to me.”

8.  “You sure that’s best for the kids?”

9.  “‘It’s no different than having a spouse. I see no difference at all.’

Said to me by my boss…and I have 100% full custody

10. “‘ It must be so nice to have time away from the kids!’

Well, yeah, but it’s also really hard to know you’re missing half of their lives.”

11. “It’s the most rewarding thing ever!”

12. “You need to prioritize.”

13.  “‘My husband works so much, I’m basically a single mother too.’

…..no one will ever understand unless they live it.”

14. “‘I do everything you do…. You get the benefit of not having to live with a man!’

Really? Hope you never have to experience the reality.”

15. “‘You need a man in your life.’

HA! That’s where all the trouble started in the first place. I had many people tell me that, boy were they wrong. I should have stayed single, would have been better off.”

16. “‘ It’s easy. It doesn’t sound too hard!’

Go have yourself a teenager and then come back and tell me how ‘easy’ it is!”

17.  “You are lucky you do not have a spouse to fight with”

18. “‘You have it easy, you can use your kid as an excuse.’

That was said regarding NEEDING to leave early #Juggling #TakesaVillage #ItsNotEasy”

19. “Just how do you do it?”

20.  “[With a sad, patronizing face] ‘How are you coping with life?’

21. “Every child needs both their parents there.”

22. “I don’t appreciate when strangers ask me if the father is involved with the child. A) It’s none of your business and B) He isn’t which makes it upsetting to have to reply!”

23. “‘You should spend more time with the kids and less time working.’

Bills don’t pay themselves and food doesn’t appear magically.”

We agree with the Huffington Post’s quotes! So the next time you consider offering a single parent unsolicited advice, you may want to think twice.  Though the constructive criticism generally comes from a well-meaning place, as many single dads and moms will tell you, the tone struck is all too often judgmental rather than supportive.

 

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New Year, New Man!

Are you looking for a new man this season!? It’s not easy to start a new life after long years of marriage and bringing up a child alone. Many single women try to set up a new family to create a new personal life. Some women succeed and some women have new difficulties and disappointments. But with the help of our blog and by joining SingleMums.Net we’re sure you’ll get just what you want this Christmas!

Top 5 ways how to get a new man in 2013!;

1. Look and feel your best!

You may have heard it’s what’s on the inside that counts but unfortunately men’s instincts say otherwise. Before the man will take their time to get to know you they will make a judgement on your appearance and whether he thinks you’re his type or not. This doesn’t mean you have to look like a super model or constantly go out dressed up to the nines. However you should put some effort in for when you’re going out in public as you never know who you might come across. You wouldn’t show up to an interview looking like you’ve just rolled out of bed, so even when you don’t anticipate on seeing anyone when you’re out its a good idea to always look your best, resulting in you feeling the same way!

 

2.  Be happy within yourself!

Being single is stressful even without the strain of looking after children on your own! And even worse the transition from being a single mother to having to possibly introduce a new man into your life can create even more stressors. However it is very important when you’re meeting someone to seem happy and content with where your life is and will go in the near future. No man wants to be around, let alone date someone who’s seen as dramatic, so if things are stressing you out do your best to deal with it in your own time.

 

3.  Don’t only think of yourself but your kids too!

Think about how your new man can fit into your lifestyle before committing yourself to anything. Put yours and your children’s needs first as they are what matter the most. When it comes to introducing him to your kids you should be very sure that there is a potential future with him, its best not to make it seem like a big deal, but as if he is just a friend of yours. This will give the children time to bond with the man without feeling any feelings of jealousy or replacement. If after a few months or so you still feel there is definitely potential then it is probably best to slowly start introducing him in a different way, but always be honest with not only yourself but your children as well.

 

4. Take your time!

Think about how your new man could blend in with your life. Not only must you be sure on this but you must give each other natural space as well as giving your children all the attention they need and making sure they are not missing out due to your new man. Space out your time together so that you don’t smother each other. Be confident within your relationship to know that the two of you do not have to be joined at the hip to be in a solid relationship. Encourage him to go out with his friends and you do the same so that you can appreciate your time apart when you see each other again.

 

5. Make sure you are over your ex!

Give your new relationship a chance to grow and develop without a pesky, lingering ex resurfacing. Have a clear conversation with your man that sets up some general rules about how you will both handle issues from your past so you’re discussing them as a team and not hiding things from each other. This may be more difficult for the man to handle as you have had children with your ex partner and may have been married, tell him he has nothing to worry about and should trust you when you say you are completely over him and no longer have feelings for him. But at the same time he will need to understand that the ex may still be around as he still needs a relationship with the children.

 

We hope these tips will help you find the man you’re looking for & we wish you a merry Christmas and happy new year from the team at SingleMums.Net!