Are you looking for a new man this season!? It’s not easy to start a new life after long years of marriage and bringing up a child alone. Many single women try to set up a new family to create a new personal life. Some women succeed and some women have new difficulties and disappointments. But with the help of our blog and by joining SingleMums.Net we’re sure you’ll get just what you want this Christmas!
Top 5 ways how to get a new man in 2013!;
1. Look and feel your best!
You may have heard it’s what’s on the inside that counts but unfortunately men’s instincts say otherwise. Before the man will take their time to get to know you they will make a judgement on your appearance and whether he thinks you’re his type or not. This doesn’t mean you have to look like a super model or constantly go out dressed up to the nines. However you should put some effort in for when you’re going out in public as you never know who you might come across. You wouldn’t show up to an interview looking like you’ve just rolled out of bed, so even when you don’t anticipate on seeing anyone when you’re out its a good idea to always look your best, resulting in you feeling the same way!
2. Be happy within yourself!
Being single is stressful even without the strain of looking after children on your own! And even worse the transition from being a single mother to having to possibly introduce a new man into your life can create even more stressors. However it is very important when you’re meeting someone to seem happy and content with where your life is and will go in the near future. No man wants to be around, let alone date someone who’s seen as dramatic, so if things are stressing you out do your best to deal with it in your own time.
3. Don’t only think of yourself but your kids too!
Think about how your new man can fit into your lifestyle before committing yourself to anything. Put yours and your children’s needs first as they are what matter the most. When it comes to introducing him to your kids you should be very sure that there is a potential future with him, its best not to make it seem like a big deal, but as if he is just a friend of yours. This will give the children time to bond with the man without feeling any feelings of jealousy or replacement. If after a few months or so you still feel there is definitely potential then it is probably best to slowly start introducing him in a different way, but always be honest with not only yourself but your children as well.
4. Take your time!
Think about how your new man could blend in with your life. Not only must you be sure on this but you must give each other natural space as well as giving your children all the attention they need and making sure they are not missing out due to your new man. Space out your time together so that you don’t smother each other. Be confident within your relationship to know that the two of you do not have to be joined at the hip to be in a solid relationship. Encourage him to go out with his friends and you do the same so that you can appreciate your time apart when you see each other again.
5. Make sure you are over your ex!
Give your new relationship a chance to grow and develop without a pesky, lingering ex resurfacing. Have a clear conversation with your man that sets up some general rules about how you will both handle issues from your past so you’re discussing them as a team and not hiding things from each other. This may be more difficult for the man to handle as you have had children with your ex partner and may have been married, tell him he has nothing to worry about and should trust you when you say you are completely over him and no longer have feelings for him. But at the same time he will need to understand that the ex may still be around as he still needs a relationship with the children.
We hope these tips will help you find the man you’re looking for & we wish you a merry Christmas and happy new year from the team at SingleMums.Net!